Her: “You’ve been talking to her, weren’t you?”
Him: *while quickly deleting the messages* “What?! No! What made you say that?”
Every now and then we see people being led on ruthlessly by the lies and frantic tactics of their partners by using gas-lighting. When their ‘special someone’ is narcissistic, it’s pretty much evident how often they use gas-lighting to slither away from the rather valid accusations thrown on them, but does the victim know about it? No.
HOW TO IDENTIFY IT:
So dear readers, here’s how to identify the signs if your partner has been using gas-lighting on you.
Gas-lighting is a manipulative technique where a person not just exactly does what their partner fears/doubts but also makes them question their sanity, as if they’ve gone mad by over-thinking so much. And it actually DOES drive a person mad. The victim becomes SO traumatized that they start questioning themselves if they’re normal at all.
The damage gas-lighting does is hardly ever healed. A person is destroyed for life, and craves for ONE moment of peace where their minds aren’t making up scenarios and showing them their worst fears. Its rather alarming how relationships are taken so casually that their sanctity are being compromised for few moments of fun. And it takes a huge level of viciousness to actually ruin someone mentally by doing exactly what they were framing you of, making their fears come true and also making them doubt their own selves. It not just ruins their sanity but also makes them question themselves if they were even worth anything at all.
Its easy saying “don’t be a victim”. The real task is to identify it. And even if you are and didn’t know about it, now you do. You’re worth everything and that’s what needs to be carved in your minds, and not the image of your partner cheating on you.